Archive for December, 2009
I have not been divorced before and would like to learn from anyone who’s been there any tips on what I should remember, consider when coming up any of these agreements? Or if you did/missed writing something that has affected you and your children, even your ex-spouse greatly after the divorce? Thank you for any help. I am doing my research at the library too. If it helps you at al, I am divorcing in Virginia.
TROLL ALERT….. TROLL ALERT……TROLL ALERT.
remember to do….. what your lawyer tells you.
This is my situation. Single mom. Working 45 hrs per week. High stress professional job.
Preferably answers from someone in the same circumstances would be best. Please state your circumstances too.
How do you find the motivation to clean when you are so dead tired after working all day and barely have the energy to make dinner let alone do the dishes after?
How do you keep organized? Are you able to follow a schedule? What do you do when you get really behind and the tasks seem overwhelming?
Sometimes I feel like the only answer is to call in sick once a month just so I can keep my home in order. Help please!
I’m in the same boat…I just make sure that I spend 15 minutes doing something to improve my house…ie..start a load of laundry before I leave for work…put in dryer upon return home from work while cooking dinner and then after dinner after the dishes are done…take that load from the dryer and you’re done!!! I personally like to fold right out of the dryer thus no HUGE piles of folding waiting for me. Above all get the kids to help…easier said than done I know..but every little hand helps.
I have a 2yr old son with my Ex, We split on August 2007 I open a child support case that same month. I sent all my paperwork & i gave them all his information including his work address & num, Its been 3months already & i havent received anything. I asked my ex if he received any letters & he said no.
The best way to get child support is thru your local Child Support Enforecement office. You may not be able to force your ex to visit his child, but you can MAKE him support him/her. Child support Enforcement will automatically garnish his paycheck and send you the money via mail or a check card. They will also assist you with establishing paternity if this has not been done yet. Click the following link to locate your local office:http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
Depending on the state you live in, the process should take anywhere from 6weeks to 6months. Support is determined on both of your incomes and it may also require that he maintain health insurance for your child.
Since you have already begun the process, contact your case worker to inquire about the status.
Good luck!
I am wondering if anyone has a learned, psychological opinion on whether or not children could have problems later on in life if they are adopted into a home where there is either a single parent or homosexual parents.
Does a child require the nurturing of both sexes?
Please, I really just want professional opinions on this, like psycholgists and psychology students.
I grew up in a gay neighborhood in SF. None of the children of gay parents I knew were gay. Is that the real question? Those of us that had single mothers or grandmothers or gay parents, about 25% are not well-adjusted, productive adults. Probably the national average of all children.
I think it is all about numbers of parents and their involvement with nurturing. You will find that children in cultures who live with many generations under one roof are often better off than man+wife+children. Also, many children in non-abusive polygamous households are also productive adults.
The problem with research is that you must have an open mind when asking the question. I can "prove" any prejudice you have. Any psychologist will tell you that.
I’ve written before about this crazy situation. Basically, I had a child in June with an illegal Mexican (I didn’t know this until my last trimester). He threatened me 3 times in the past that he would take our son to Mexico and I’d never see him again. He says now that he didn’t mean it, that he was just mad. But I’ve never left the baby alone with him because of this. In the last 2 1/2 months, he’s only come to see him 3 times. And since his birth, he’s only given me 3 checks of $125. He and I are going to court in 2 weeks. I’m seeking sole custody with supervised visitation. He and I were never married. The county prosecutor told me that I will get Child support, regardless of his legal status. But given the fact that he’s a "flight risk" who has threatened me, do you think they’ll let him take the baby to his house without supervision? I’m so scared. Until now, he has come to my house for visits. He’s very clever and sneaky as far as knowing how to work the American system.
You can request this regardless of any circumstances. Your lawyer needs to present this fact to the judge..that he is a flight risk and that he has threaten you before. You can set up an ideal plan to the judge for supervise rights and the judge can grant this with or without modifactions. So if you want the child’s father to have supervised visitation it is imperative that you and your lawyer mention this to the judge. Failure to mention this could result the completion of the threat. Don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also be prepare to have these visitations to be somewhere else other than your homes. So be prepare to pick an alternative place a counseling center is the best place to have them. But just make sure you request these supervise visitation, I can’t stress that enough….
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