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I’ve been reading some posts and I think its great when a single mom can take care of her kid(s) by herself – I think its an awful situation to be put in but I really commend the women (and the men) that do it. but i wonder how? how can a single, let’s say 17year old take care of a child all by herself? full time job, daycare, apartment, bills.. It’s tough enough with a partner. I keep seeing posts where women say they’ve done it all by themselves but I can’t imagine how. just curious.
I work really hard in order to support myself and my son. His father had only seen him 4 times (day he was born, 1 visit to home, appointment, christmas) and makes no effort to see how he is doing or help financially (my Child support hearing is next week) I’m also a full time college student. The biggest help I have is my mom and her husband, I’d be lost without them. Thanks to them I don’t have to worry about daycare while I’m at work or school. It’s really hard, I have to worry about his needs first, there have been times where I couldnt afford to buy myself food because he needed diapers and I either go eat at my moms, borrowed money or just not eaten. I don’t regret a minute of my life without my baby boy. He is the only reason I work so hard and study my butt off. He is all the motivation in the world that i need in order to pull through and get ahead.
While it’s probably hard on single fathers because we are not naturally maternal, I’m sure it takes a lot more courage and willpower (and sacrifices) for a mother to play the role of both mom and dad to her child.
Your thought on this?
It’s definitely a double standard in our culture. We tend to look at fatherhood as voluntary. Our culture still defines a good father as a good provider. If he can give his kids financial support, then he’s met the minimum requirement for fatherhood, and no one really expects more. If he chooses to give more than financial support, we praise him.
Motherhood, on the other hand, is not seen as voluntary. A mother is not given a choice of how much emotional and personal involvement she wants to have with her kids. She is expected to be there for them, love them, and do the hands on care 24/7. If she doesn’t sacrifice everything for her kids, she is criticized for not being a good enough mother.
As for who has it harder, I think single mothers do, but not for the reasons other people mentioned. It’s the money. Single mothers’ incomes continue to lag behind single fathers’ incomes, and the gap has increased over time. Households headed by an unmarried woman are at a huge disadvantage financially. The stress of low income, combined with the expectation that a mom has to be everything to her children, can make her life very difficult.
I am a single mom of 5 kids. My kids father left me for another woman and I need to move out our home in 15 days, I live in the palm coast area is there any help for me in a situation like this?
http://onetoughjob.org/?gclid=CPKbyMydl5MCFSQwiQodCw4Kyw i found this link if it doesnt help im sure it will lead you in the right direction and you can always go to your local DES office for help salvation army can lead you to the right spot also good luck and god bless
My friend is a single mom who want to go back to school to be a dental hygienist but also needs help with living expenses as well. Are there any grants out there for her that do both?
Nothing is going to pay for all of her living expenses. Your friend could apply for financial aid, and may even receive a refund (but it’s not guaranteed – I’ve been in school for 3+ years and never received a refund). Your friend could apply for housing help (section 
and energy assistance (in the winter). In addition, she may qualify for food stamps to help with grocery costs. Other than that, she’s going to need to work at least part-time and possibly full-time, depending on her expenses. Many schools now offer online courses, distance courses, Saturday classes, or evening classes to accommodate working students. I take 2 classes online and 1 class at the school. The class at school meets one night a week for 4 hours.
The struggle to manage the finance is a very important factor to consider as a single parent. Getting a proper job to support both the parent and the child can solve this. Finding a job in the immediate vicinity would help a lot as enough attention can be given to the child.
There may be many effects of single parenting on the parent. It is extremely tough and also a challenging task. Many of these parents suffer from the negative effects caused.
There are a lot of articles like this and many websites and also magazines. All you have to do is take some time and search. For articles that are more precise and that will provide you with exactly what you want you could look for them in the libraries. By reading these articles and books one can develop a good ideas how to handle a situation and these articles will behave as a guide and help you out to make your parenting life a little easier.
As the number of marriage break ups, death of a partner or even teenage pregnancies have increased these articles have become very popular and are being publicized widely. There have been many demands over the last few years on self-help tips on how to raise a child being a single parent.
These articles mainly focus on Single moms and dads who have lost their spouse because of an unfortunate death and have to raise their child all by themselves. These articles would help them to handle grief and to continue their life without a partner.
In order to reduce all the bad effects the Single parents must talk and express well with their children. they should communicate well and allow their children to express the problems that they are facing. Its upto the parents to let their children know that no matter what happens they will be always loved.
The most important thing is the parents should give their child a secure feling, a healthy environment and lots of love. This is important because it helps the children to be in a better psycological position. This will help them a lot and they will feel very secure. This will help in their growth both physically and psycologically.
Some children who are being raised in a bad environment or the children who are the product of teenage pregnancies are liable to be very sensitive than children raised in a normal environment, as they seem to be a usual topic at school or with their friends. This puts in a very uncomfortable position. These children must be helped to cope up and these articles will help a parent to do that.
Some articles are very confusing and are of not much help, such articles must be totally disregarded. As these are articles written by humans they are liable to errors and need not be perfect. But most of the authors use their experience as a single parent and write the articles. And sometimes they are not so informative.
Articles like those on single parenting are of great help for parents who are single to guide their child to a better future and to help them become better citizens.
The most important thing children need is security, loving and a very healthy environment for a proper physical as well as psychological growth. If these conditions are satisfied the children will grow up to be fine men even if a single parent has brought them up. Its always up to the parent how their children shape up to be in the future.
Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/mortgage-for-single-parents-tips-to-manage-finances-740378.html