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Washington Adult Child Alienated from Father

admin — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 03:26:16 +0000

http://petition.WashingtonSharedParenting.com This Washingon adult child speaks to the effect of being alienated from her father by falsehoods told by her mother and other professionals and how she rekindled that relationship two year later and found his loving arms again.
Parental Alienation is real. Shared Parenting is needed in each state in the US. Parents need to be accountable for visitation violations.

This Video demonstrates the harm that failures by Washington’s Legislature, and especially Senator Hargrove committ on children every day in Washington State
www.WashingtonSharedParenting.com

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how do young single moms support their kids alone?

admin — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:23:19 +0000

I’ve been reading some posts and I think its great when a single mom can take care of her kid(s) by herself – I think its an awful situation to be put in but I really commend the women (and the men) that do it. but i wonder how? how can a single, let’s say 17year old take care of a child all by herself? full time job, daycare, apartment, bills.. It’s tough enough with a partner. I keep seeing posts where women say they’ve done it all by themselves but I can’t imagine how. just curious.

I work really hard in order to support myself and my son. His father had only seen him 4 times (day he was born, 1 visit to home, appointment, christmas) and makes no effort to see how he is doing or help financially (my Child support hearing is next week) I’m also a full time college student. The biggest help I have is my mom and her husband, I’d be lost without them. Thanks to them I don’t have to worry about daycare while I’m at work or school. It’s really hard, I have to worry about his needs first, there have been times where I couldnt afford to buy myself food because he needed diapers and I either go eat at my moms, borrowed money or just not eaten. I don’t regret a minute of my life without my baby boy. He is the only reason I work so hard and study my butt off. He is all the motivation in the world that i need in order to pull through and get ahead.

How do you make a dead beat dad pay his child support without hiring a lawyer or incurring a lot of expenses?

admin — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:23:18 +0000

My friend is a single mother. The baby’s father is the true definition of dead beat dad. He tries to skip out on paying his child support and even tried lying to the agency about where he works so that he wouldn’t have to pay it. He works for a dance company and gets paid a lot in cash for teaching dance classes. He is dating one of the owners of the dance company so we think that he is convincing her to not take the child support out of his paycheck. The only time my friend actually gets a check is when she calls and makes several complaints to the Child support agency which takes a lot of time and effort. How can she get her well-deserved child support money without hiring a lawyer or incurring a lot of expenses?
I want to clarify something. He already has a wage garnish order in place, but the employer is not complying with it. We think it has to do with the fact that he is dating the owner of the company and is convincing her to not take the garnished wages out.

The employer can get in big big trouble for denying a support order!

If she cannot get a reasonable explanation for the late payments, she needs to file a complain with the court.

I have a quick question regarding child support/visitation relationship?

admin — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:23:16 +0000

I talked to a lawyer the other day and he told me something interesting. That Child support and visitation are not dependent on each other. In essence you can pay child support, but never see your child and you can see your child, but not be making payments. I wondered if this was true? He said that they are not connected because visitation is the most base right that a parent can have and not making child support payments does not mean that they are a bad parent. Therefore they can’t lose visitation for not paying, except in incredibly extreme circumstances. Is this true?

Your lawyer is correct. However, if a parent gets too far behind in child support payments, oftentimes an arrest warrant will be issued for non-support. This causes some parents to not visit for fear of arrest. Thus, owing child support can lead to non-visitation.

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What questions should be asked at a child support hearing in order to get the best results?

admin — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 21:16:35 +0000

My friend has a child support hearing coming up. She wants to know what should be said in order for her to get what her child deserves. (The man has been giving false information in order to get out of paying Child support) Please help.

Documentation is huge. Photos of his new car, or new stuff should help. If he has a myspace type site… snag photos that ensure that the site is his and then print out his blog that describes what he does with his free time.

If he employed by a company then he can’t really lie about it because he is required to provide all of his salary information as well as his most recent W2 which he probably only got in January.

If he’s self-employed or works under the table that can be a trickier thing to nail down and as I said the more documentation the better.

Also check out how his expenses weigh in against what he’s claiming to make and toss that in with any new things he’s bought recently.

You can contact me through here if you want more information about it… I had the same trouble and the judge was very impressed and my ex VERY disappointed with the outcome. He had to retropay from when I had first filed and it was at almost double the rate he had been paying up until that point.

Best of luck,

–Lee Ann

Why do people look down on single mothers but praise single dads? I’m sure it’s much harder being single moms?

admin — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 21:16:35 +0000

While it’s probably hard on single fathers because we are not naturally maternal, I’m sure it takes a lot more courage and willpower (and sacrifices) for a mother to play the role of both mom and dad to her child.

Your thought on this?

It’s definitely a double standard in our culture. We tend to look at fatherhood as voluntary. Our culture still defines a good father as a good provider. If he can give his kids financial support, then he’s met the minimum requirement for fatherhood, and no one really expects more. If he chooses to give more than financial support, we praise him.

Motherhood, on the other hand, is not seen as voluntary. A mother is not given a choice of how much emotional and personal involvement she wants to have with her kids. She is expected to be there for them, love them, and do the hands on care 24/7. If she doesn’t sacrifice everything for her kids, she is criticized for not being a good enough mother.

As for who has it harder, I think single mothers do, but not for the reasons other people mentioned. It’s the money. Single mothers’ incomes continue to lag behind single fathers’ incomes, and the gap has increased over time. Households headed by an unmarried woman are at a huge disadvantage financially. The stress of low income, combined with the expectation that a mom has to be everything to her children, can make her life very difficult.

To single parents: what is the most difficult time for a single parent?

admin — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 21:16:33 +0000

Only for those who are single parents.

…Almost every day…haha…I am being somewhat fecitious but truly, as a single father of two girls, oldest being 21 now, I can say it is now that is the hardest. Because I am constantly realizing all the moments when I should have said this or that or done something a different way. It’s simple to say and yet hard to practice at times but try to be the best parent you can with the thought that every decision you make should be for the child and his or her "future social characteristics", for when they get older is truly when you will know if you "did the best you could". My kids are great kids and I think I worry about them more now than I did at an early age. However, I always questioned myself from time to time as to whether I was being the best parent, I think we should be concerned if we do not question ourselves. Complacency is infectious. Remember, it is easier to raise a child than an adult.

Best wishes to all the Single parents.

In Missouri, can I deny the father of my child visitation rights?

admin — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 21:16:31 +0000

If I don’t take any money/Child support from him, do I have to let him see the baby? If so, I am going tolie to him and say it isn’t his. He is way too immature to care for a child and I refuse to submit my baby to that.
I am 16 and plan on not telling him that it’s his baby.

Rights and responsibilities are two different things.

He was the right to see his child unless shown by a court of law that he is unfit.

He is responsible to pay support.

If you are old enough to bring a child into this world you are old enough to that it is an extremely poor decision to deprive your child of a parents. He is probably young, and immature, however he will grow. Just as you will. I would strongly suggest establishing formal paternity and parental rights through the court system. It is absolutly the right of the child to have both his parents supporting him or her financially, emotionally and physically.

Unless a court deems a parent to be unfit it is thier right to see and have a relationship with that child.

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Understanding child support visitation rights FAQ Get the Facts

admin — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 03:21:59 +0000

http://tinyurl.com/123custody ← ← WIN YOUR CHILD CUSTODY CASE Understanding child support visitation rights FAQ Get the Facts

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How can I reduce child support payments when you live in another state making minimum wage?

admin — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 18:15:13 +0000

"Lee" makes $6.00 an hour and is ordered to pay $514.00 a month for child support and doesn’t even get 40 hours on the job. The order come from Illinois and "Lee" lives in Mississippi. "Lee" appealed last year and was given a telephone interview she knew nothing about. 2 of her checks was $0.00 after support was taken out. The child turned 18 in July and is away at college. "Lee" doesn’t mind paying the support, but she can hardly get her bills paid. Does anyone know of a lawyer (maybe a legal aid lawyer) that sides with the parent paying support to get it lowered?

First of all, The state of Illinois will mandate support until the age of 19 if the child is continuing High School or past that age if by agreement.

Secondly, by statute, the minimum percentage of support for 6 children is 50% of Net so you are either, as one person said, lying or being lied to.

And finally, the case of your FRIEND is most likely because she owes arrears and that will continue until the amount is paid in full.

The ONLY solution for her is to either hire an attorney or get another job. Because frankly, I don’t believe a word of this story.

EDITED TO CORRECT A FALSE FACT:
Child support in New York continues until the age of 21. And in all states, provisions in the statutes allow for support to continue (in some cases) for the life of the child.

Support does NOT automatically terminate in ANY state at the age of 18. There is either a statutory allowance for a motion to terminate or the order must be written into the support decision at the time of the court’s issuance.