I left my husb yesterday, well actually he kicked me out, and i’m feeling really down. The change is affecting me and my child a lot, he’s 16 months btw. He’s whiny and fuzzy and i think i’m getting depressed. The reason why i got out of that relationship was b/c my husb was a little emotionally abusive and we never had a good marriage but I miss EVERYTHING, the house, lifestyle, routine, even my husb. I don’t know what to do! I still have hope that we will get back together and try to change things but i don’t know if that would work out. What did you do to get over it?
Before you bag the marriage you should seriously discuss marital counseling with your husband. If he refuses, get a lawyer to handle the divorce, and your only choice will be to move on with your life.
You don’t need him back – he kicked you out. Call an attorney in the morning. If he would kick his wife and child out, he has problems. Go ahead and start divorce proceedings. The sooner you get out of this marriage, the sooner you’ll get over this monster.
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Did you try getting professional help?
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He physically kicked you and his child out of your house ?? You need to call the police on him and have HIM kicked out of the house for abuse. Then you don’t leave for any reason. Go to court and get a court order if you have to. Then get a good divorce lawyer and stick it to him. Why would you want to go back to that mess !!
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He can’t just kick you out of the house. You guys are married and it is your house too. Talk to a lawyer who will tell you what your rights are. He has to pay child support for the young child. If I were you I would go back home and if he got abusive I would call the cops and have his arrested. Don’t let him treat you like that.
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I got a job put my 3 babies in child care, i became independent where i new i wanted a good man,Not need a man to half ass pay bills.Now years later i have met a nice guy he is great to me and my kids.
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Before you bag the marriage you should seriously discuss marital counseling with your husband. If he refuses, get a lawyer to handle the divorce, and your only choice will be to move on with your life.
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You need to find a support group. Call women’s shelters or an abuse shelter and they will guide you on what you need to do next and where to go. First thing you need to do is get out and get a job – any job to start supporting yourself and your child.
My ex abused me, but he’s the one that moved out. I kept the house for me and my son (till I sold it and moved out of state). I was paying all the bills – my ex was not working at the time. He moved home to mommy and daddy.
You take it one day at a time. You need to be strong for your child.
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I know how you feel. when i left my ex husband (he was cheating), i was so depressed. i missed so much to lay in my own bed. cook in my own kitchen. just having my own period.
getting over it…only time can do that girlfriend. but a man that would kick his wife out is an ass..a dude that kicks his child out too, is f*cked up!
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Focus on your son and you. Do things to improve you for your child sake. Stay busy(not hard with 16month old ) ;o)
Make sure you file for child support. Any man who will throw their wife AND CHILD out is no good to the child let alone the wife.
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Currently going thru a divorce. My kids are the main reason why. It one thing to hurt me, but when my son see the hurt and feel it, it’s time to go!
get counseling. he probably won’t change, but you need to be strong for yourself and your child
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Are you serious?
If you’re in America he has no right to throw you and the baby out. I don’t care if the house is in his name or what, the baby misses his own crib and his routine. He’s not old enough to understand but old enough to know this is bad. Your need your kitchen to cook for your child. Get back in that house, bring the police–let that fool move out, or get counseling from a pastor–you don’t end it for a little ‘emotional abuse’, you made a family you stand your ground. If he threw you out WITH the child he is bringing in another female. That is terrible. Think of her in your bed.
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Even though the relationship wasn’t very good it is normal for you to miss it. The important thing is for you not to let that influence your decision. DON’T GO BACK!!! If he kicked you out I’m thinking he was more than just "a little emotionally abusive".
Seek out services from your local women’s shelter. Your husband isn’t gonna change unless he gets help and since he isn’t you are doing the best thing for yourself and your child.
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Seek professional intervention..you need assist getting away from an abuser was a step in the right direction..get support from a women’s shelter/agency that deals with domestic violence..such a emotional abuse..take care of yourself..seek the needed support that is available to you
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You said your husband kicked you out but you also said that the reason you got out was because your husband was a little emotionally abusive and you never had a good marriage.
It seems to me that you were in it just for the things – the house, the lifestyle, the routine.
Well here is a perfect example why a good marriage needs more than that and I guess your husband got the number on you and kicked you out.
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